If I’m trying to convince you that you can be a “happy” mom, I suppose it would help to be clear about what “happiness” means to me.
To me, being a happy person isn’t about your emotional state at this specific moment only. When I say I’m a happy mom, it doesn’t necessarily mean “I am currently in a state of bliss due to the awesomeness of motherhood as it is currently being experienced by me.” Oh no. I don’t mean that at all.
It’s more a state of overall satisfaction and contentedness, where even the self-replicating mound of laundry, even the needy phase my three-year-old is going through in which he wakes up the baby 12 times a day out of boredom or some kind of mom-sabotage, and even the rage I felt half an hour ago when I found one of MY Ghiardelli milk chocolate squares with caramel inside melted to the sofa (they weren’t supposed to have it at all but for the love of all that is holy why didn’t they at least EAT it once they got it open?)…where even in spite of all those things, I can look objectively at my life and feel pretty satisfied with it.
But maybe your personal definition of “happiness” is different. What, to you, does it mean to be a happy mother? Do you consider yourself happy?
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I definitely consider myself a happy mom. Getting home to my daughter is the best part of my day!
I define happiness as you do – overall contentedness. It certainly doesn’t mean life’s perfect (in my opinion, life will never be perfect, as it’s continually evolving) but that I’m basically happy with where I am.
And right now? That’s certainly true.
I do consider myself happy and believe happiness is a choice to be content with what you have and where you are in life, regardless of circumstance. Just like you said- it’s not a state of constant bliss- but it is a general feeling of “life is good” and “everything will be ok”
Happiness is a state of mind that really depends how we see the situations in our lives each day. you can have all the riches in the world but still see it as a lonely place.;-;
everyone wants to be happy in one way or another`”.