One of the things I love about summer is how relaxed it is. One of the things I hate about summer is how relaxed it is. We start off in the cool days of early June loving life, relishing in our new bedtimes, and spending long days relaxing in the yard with a glass of lemonade and a sprinkler.
But by the time we get to July, it’s apparent things have fallen apart a bit. Those slightly later bedtimes have turned into nightly free-for-alls where it’s a race to get the kids to actually go to bed before I drop off from exhaustion myself. It feels too hot to do anything outside, so we wind up watching more TV in the air conditioning than I’m happy with. The dishes pile up faster than they do during the school year, and the occasional fat, buzzing fly just adds to the general feeling of disorder. It’s worse for me this summer than most because of my dad and my book project, but this isn’t the first time I’ve faced a little midsummer meltdown.
Can you relate? Let’s reboot! We still have about a third of summer break left, and it’s not too late to get back on track. Here’s what I’m going to do:
1. Get up early.
Maybe you’ve been here. It’s summer break, so you let the kids go to bed an hour later than usual and sleep in, too. Next thing you know you’re sleeping in with them. Pretty soon they’re getting up before you and whining outside your bedroom door for breakfast as you beg for just ten more minutes. No? Okay, maybe I’m the only one. The point is that as much as I know one of my keys to happiness is a predictable, early-ish bedtime and a reasonable rising hour, it’s one of those things that’s only too easy to lose control over during the muggy, fuzzy days of midsummer. So this morning I forced myself to get up at 7 AM to break the cycle. I’m sitting here at my dining-room table, awake long before the kids, drinking my tea with the morning sun streaming in the eastern windows. And I already feel better.
2. Get moving.
The other day I realized that I have not gone for a walk–which I used to do 2-3 times a day–since my dad died. Life got so crazy for a while that it slipped off the to-do list, and then when things got back to normal-ish, I just couldn’t seem to drum up the energy for it. But walking is one of those things I love to do that makes me feel so good, so skipping my stroll is really just punishing myself. (And if my tightening waistbands are any indicator, I better get back to it or I’m going to have to buy a whole new wardrobe). Maybe you’ve found it hard to get out because of the crazy hot and humid weather or just because your life has fallen apart a bit, mid-summer style. That’s OK. Let’s just make a pact to get back up and out there, okay?
3. Lay off the hooch.
Listen, I don’t want to perpetuate the image of the drunken mommy, but I’ll admit–especially on those long, rough days–I really look forward to that evening glass of Malbec. It tastes so good–and it’s so fun to do something grown-up just for me–that it’s only too easy to have that second (generous) glass. Nothing wrong with doing that once in a while, but it’s one of those things that can just as easily become a bad habit as retiring to the sofa and scarfing down a bag of chips in front of reality TV every night. And even a small amount of alcohol close to bedtime can screw up your sleep patterns. I find that the more I limit my consumption, the better I sleep and the more refreshed I feel in the morning. Plus, then having a couple of glasses with dinner every now and then is just that much more special.
4. Unplug.
Since I’m still finishing my book, walking away from the computer entirely is not an option. But taking a temporary moratorium from Facebook, Twitter, and obsessively checking my email totally is. This month I’ve lapsed into a sort of hectic work mode, where I feel like I need to be on or near the computer all the time even when I’m not actively, you know, working. So I’ve been frittering away a lot of time that I could have been spending reading, walking, or going to the beach or park with my kids. Hey, it happens to everyone, so I’m not going to bother beating myself up about it. But I’m taking this opportunity to take a step back and focus on the things that really matter to me. Because as much as I love my Tweeps, I know life’s out of balance when I spend more time with them than my husband.
Are you in need of a mid-summer life reboot? How will you do it?
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Wonderful suggestions on how to reboot for the rest of the summer!
my usual reboot advice revolves around doing something to really break your routine — so, do the opposite. if you’re being a hermit, get out. if you’re running around town like a chicken with your head cut off, schedule three down days in a row at home, and etc.
for us, a one-day mini vacation often works as a great reboot in terms of inspiration and energy. we get up early and go on a whole day’s adventure — say, a morning hike, lunch somewhere new, afternoon explore, then run into a grocery store and have an evening picnic. come home and don’t turn anything on .. play a board game, read aloud together. if the adventuring happens an hour away, somewhere we’ve never been before, so much the better.
I’m with you on the mid-summer slump. I’m definitely guilty of needing to exercise and unplug. My girls get up wicked early in the summer (all year long, actually, but especially in the summer) so I’m actually overtired in a different way, but tired just the same.
Thanks for reminding us to re-focus our efforts and get the most out of our remaining summer days.
I persist in reading this as “mid-life reboot.”
As soon as one of my two classes ends this weekend, the plan is to do some local travel and tie up a lot of little loose ends before school hits again for all of us.
Lori, very good advice! I think you’re so right–it’s all about breaking out of the rut. Right now for me the rut is not enough structure. I bet by next May I’ll be feeling completely the opposite!
Your timing couldn’t have been better: I read your post while lounging in bed a bit too late this morning, with my toddler wiggling and flopping around me! So, not only was I guilty of #1 but I was also glued to my iPhone (#4) from the moment the day started.
Fortunately, I’d at least already addressed #3, which I had been guilty of since separating from my husband a couple months ago. My one glass of wine a night was turning into two, and I didn’t want my son to have an image of me with a drink in my hand every night, especially as a single mother. So I laid off it, and realized that a cup of tea actually feels pretty nice too– sometimes it’s more about having a ritualistic treat to savor at the end of the day than about the alcoholic beverage itself.
Your post really rang true, and I greatly appreciate your tips. I love your blog!
M
This is EXACTLY what I needed to read as I’m sitting on my couch in my nightgown at 4:30 p.m.. Everyday I go to bed feeling guilty about what I didn’t do and promising myself that I’ll get to it tomorrow. And here I sit on the couch in my nightgown.
I need to shower first thing in the morning or I lose all motivation. And I have to do something productive (laundry, dishes, picking up junk around the house) before I even touch the computer, or I’ll fall into the “just five more minutes” trap. And, as prone as I am to hanging out instead of dragging my four kids out of the house, I must do at least a couple of activities a week.
Thanks for the kick in the pants (or in my case, nightgown).
As usual you are right on the mark, and offering practical suggestions. Any advice for how to conquer the mid-summer cold that won’t quit? You know the kind that keeps you up half the night with a cough, so sleeping is not an option even though it’s the only thing your body needs. (Of course, if you could answer that question, you’d be set for life, right?) Hope you’re feeling less slumped.
I just started getting up before my son every morning. It has made such a difference. I feel better, I get more done and feel like I’m devoting more time to my son.
Man did I need this. I have been telling myself to do all these things (especially the get up early part) and yet I haven’t listened. Maybe now that you’re telling me I’ll do it.;)
here’s hopin!
Love this…in fact you inspired me and I put a link to you in my most recent post.
Have a great weekend
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