Comments on: Make friends. But first, make sure they’re worth it. http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923 Happy. Mother. You really can use both words in the same sentence. Thu, 09 Sep 2010 19:24:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Mechelle http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2602 Mechelle Mon, 14 Dec 2009 16:54:30 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2602 What a breath of fresh air. Thanks for the reminders of how to make and keep friends. I needed that! What a breath of fresh air. Thanks for the reminders of how to make and keep friends. I needed that!

]]> By: Lain http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2591 Lain Sun, 13 Dec 2009 01:21:54 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2591 This is a great thing I try to teach my daughters (doesn't seem to apply to boys so much!): If a girl is mean once, she's probably a mean girl. Give her another chance (everyone can have a bad day!) but if it happens again, STAY AWAY, no matter how "nice" she acts to you in the future. I haven't seen much drama on the blogs, but I don't really go in for that kind of stuff. This is a great thing I try to teach my daughters (doesn’t seem to apply to boys so much!): If a girl is mean once, she’s probably a mean girl. Give her another chance (everyone can have a bad day!) but if it happens again, STAY AWAY, no matter how “nice” she acts to you in the future. I haven’t seen much drama on the blogs, but I don’t really go in for that kind of stuff.

]]> By: Allison http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2586 Allison Thu, 10 Dec 2009 03:26:42 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2586 Love this. I've always had a small group of close friends rather than a large group. It's been important to have quality friends, the ones who you know will stick by you, than friends who are only looking out for themselves. Thank you for your post. Love this. I’ve always had a small group of close friends rather than a large group. It’s been important to have quality friends, the ones who you know will stick by you, than friends who are only looking out for themselves. Thank you for your post.

]]> By: Amy @ Frugal Mama http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2585 Amy @ Frugal Mama Thu, 10 Dec 2009 01:08:49 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2585 I totally agree that one should choose their friends carefully. One good friend is worth a hundred so-so friends. I also agree with the old Girl Scout song: Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other's gold. I totally agree that one should choose their friends carefully. One good friend is worth a hundred so-so friends.

I also agree with the old Girl Scout song: Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver and the other’s gold.

]]> By: Christine LaRocque http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2584 Christine LaRocque Thu, 10 Dec 2009 00:46:38 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2584 Great post! For both online life and real life. Years ago I ended a friendship for this very reason. I didn't like the person I was when with her. I still miss her, but she was sucking the goodness out of me and I needed to move on. Thanks for this, it's a thought provoking piece that rings true on many levels. Great post! For both online life and real life. Years ago I ended a friendship for this very reason. I didn’t like the person I was when with her. I still miss her, but she was sucking the goodness out of me and I needed to move on. Thanks for this, it’s a thought provoking piece that rings true on many levels.

]]> By: Nomi http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2583 Nomi Wed, 09 Dec 2009 18:16:51 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2583 I don't know whether to be relieved I haven't seen any drama like what you're describing, or wistful at the memories of "being in the mix" that it stirs up. I don't have friends. Lots of acquaintances, and colleagues, and contacts, but no one I feel comfortable talking about personal stuff with, whether online or IRL. I'm an multi-job-holding single mom, and if I had even half an hour to spare, I'd use it for more sleep or possibly exercise (another thing I read about but have never actually tried, and I'm not joking about that -- I'm a pre-title-IX girl). So how do grownups make friends? I kind of miss that from my childhood, even though the scenarios you raise remind me of the less happy parts of friendship. I don’t know whether to be relieved I haven’t seen any drama like what you’re describing, or wistful at the memories of “being in the mix” that it stirs up. I don’t have friends. Lots of acquaintances, and colleagues, and contacts, but no one I feel comfortable talking about personal stuff with, whether online or IRL. I’m an multi-job-holding single mom, and if I had even half an hour to spare, I’d use it for more sleep or possibly exercise (another thing I read about but have never actually tried, and I’m not joking about that — I’m a pre-title-IX girl). So how do grownups make friends? I kind of miss that from my childhood, even though the scenarios you raise remind me of the less happy parts of friendship.

]]> By: Michelle http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2576 Michelle Tue, 08 Dec 2009 20:18:36 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2576 WOW! I can't believe how true this is. I think, subconsciously, I avoid social situations just so I don't have to be dragged into someone's drama. Then I remember that I have drama of my own. (Who doesn't, occasionally? Especially with kids?) Then I think about all those times I've tried to make friends, only to be given a cold shoulder. I always hated junior-high politics. It's too bad that there are a lot of people out there who haven't grown up. Thank you for this blog post. It gives me hope that there still are others out there who, like me, just want to make friends and share stories and experiences and comfort each other during those few genuine drama sessions. (I found your blog post via kirtsy.com, via heygirlniceshot.com) WOW! I can’t believe how true this is. I think, subconsciously, I avoid social situations just so I don’t have to be dragged into someone’s drama. Then I remember that I have drama of my own. (Who doesn’t, occasionally? Especially with kids?) Then I think about all those times I’ve tried to make friends, only to be given a cold shoulder. I always hated junior-high politics. It’s too bad that there are a lot of people out there who haven’t grown up. Thank you for this blog post. It gives me hope that there still are others out there who, like me, just want to make friends and share stories and experiences and comfort each other during those few genuine drama sessions. (I found your blog post via kirtsy.com, via heygirlniceshot.com)

]]> By: girl http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2575 girl Tue, 08 Dec 2009 19:43:38 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2575 Very well said. Very well indeed. Very well said. Very well indeed.

]]> By: marty http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2574 marty Tue, 08 Dec 2009 19:24:34 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2574 Brilliantly said. Brilliantly said.

]]> By: Amie aka MammaLoves http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923&cpage=1#comment-2573 Amie aka MammaLoves Tue, 08 Dec 2009 18:15:24 +0000 http://thehappiestmom.com/?p=923#comment-2573 I couldn't agree more. I think the older I get the more I recognize the truth here. Or that I don't have the energy anymore to bother with jerks--whether or not they're nice to me. I couldn’t agree more. I think the older I get the more I recognize the truth here. Or that I don’t have the energy anymore to bother with jerks–whether or not they’re nice to me.

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