Comments on: I admit it: I’m a selfish mom.

By: The Selfish Balancing Act | Social Media Mom

The Selfish Balancing Act | Social Media Mom — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 16:09:21 +0000

[...] The Happiest Mom suggests the 10-10-10 approach, which helps you determine if the choices you make are worth it in the long run. A much-awaited weekend doing something important to you might be painful in the short term for your child, who of course will miss you in your absence. But in ten months or ten years, he may have forgotten all about it, while it remains a great memory for you. On the other hand, if going away would mean missing your child’s Little League playoffs, or would likely result in weaning, or would mean you couldn’t afford a family vacation, your answer may very well be different. Everyone weighs these priorities differently, but taking the 10-10-10 approach allows you to move past the “how do I feel about the choice right this moment” and put it into perspective: it’s possible you’re inflating the actual effect this “selfish” act would have on your family over the long term (or completely missing the possible benefits they’ll experience). [...]

By: I’m a Wanna-be Selfish Mom | ExpectingWords.com

I’m a Wanna-be Selfish Mom | ExpectingWords.com — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 17:35:31 +0000

[...] didn’t like the accusation at first, but then she changed her mind and wrote about it on her blog The Happiest Mom: “Somehow, for moms being selfish is regarded as the worst possible sin…. There’s no shame in [...]

By: candice

candice — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 16:37:48 +0000

I just read your article yesterday about paying (or not) for college. Today, my cousin emailed me about a nosy relative who asked how she expected to pay for college for her 3 children. She answered that she didn’t think colleges were going to price themselves out of business and anyway, she was going to raise them to be responsible adults who can help pay their way! I just sent her the link to your article… great stuff. Keep it up!

By: melanie

melanie — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 19:56:53 +0000

i am definitely a selfish mom--i just yelled at both my kids to get back to their rooms even though there is only ten minutes left of "room-time" because i want every last minute for my own time! but i always promise them i will be a nicer, happier mom at the end, if they give me my own space and time... melanie’s last blog post..summer slide

By: Selfish Mom

Selfish Mom — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 15:48:55 +0000

Meagan, I always wondered how you were able to have so many kids and still seem so sane. Now I have an idea. Smart lady. Selfish Mom’s last blog post..The Beatles Rock Band: HARMONY!

By: Toni

Toni — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 15:35:10 +0000

Every year I attend a girlfriends' getaway weekend that we all look forward to very much. I invited a good friend who stays at home with her kids (ages 9 and 5), and her response was that she didn't feel right asking her husband to take vacation days to watch their kids "just" so she could have fun. I remember feeling that way, and I respect her response, knowing that maybe in a couple of years, she might change her mind. And even if she doesn't, I respect HER boundary and HER way of doing things. It took me a long time to understand the saying, "If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." It's always a balancing act, as you said here already. Some opportunities are worth pursuing, and some are worth setting aside until the kids are older or your family situation is different. Toni’s last blog post..Summer Break

By: marymac

marymac — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 15:22:33 +0000

our family vacation is coming up in a few weeks. the only part i am looking forward to? my day at the spa. alone. selfish? yes. necessary? absolutely. marymac’s last blog post..Funniest Crap on the Internet

By: Marinka

Marinka — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 14:55:10 +0000

"Selfish" seems to be a word that's applied exclusively to mothers. Screw that. I'm going to BlogHer. Guilt-free. Marinka’s last blog post..Remedial Blog School: Your Questions Lovingly Answered

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 11:45:27 +0000

There's a middle way between being truly, badly, selfish and a martyr. I don't know exactly what it is, but I'm trying to walk it. This year I made it a goal to do a few things for myself - I'm preparing for a famous Sydney fun run for the first time (a long-time dream), I went to a two-day conference,I attend a fortnightly women's group and I'm starting on my first book. All of them take me away from my family for chunks of time, but all of them refresh and energise me so I can be more like the mother I want to be. Marilyn’s last blog post..A conference on happiness

By: kim/hormone-colored days

kim/hormone-colored days — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 06:42:42 +0000

I wasn’t feeling at all bad about BlogHer until I realized there was a fun community event taking place the Saturday of the conference.
Me: Oh, I can’t make it, but dad will take you. You’ll have a lot of fun.
DS 9: Why can’t you come to?
Me: It’s the BlogHer Conference.
DS 9: Why do you ALWAYS got to BlogHer!
Me: But it’s only once a year for a couple of days.
DS: Yes, but you ALWAYS go.
This will be my third year and I know they will be fine without me, even if I do miss out on a fun family day. I remind myslef I’ll also “miss out” on mcuh whining and at least a few tantrums.